As some of you may know – I am studying Psychotherapy at AUT – and one of the things we are learning about is the tendency many of us have to try and please everyone and how difficult it is for “pleasers” to ever work out who they are and what is their life’s purpose. That being the case – I was particularly interested in the recent article my good friend Wilma Ham has posted to her blog about her own life lessons on the topic:
Growing up I always heard, ‘Don’t get too big for your boots, young lady’!
‘No, you are NOT the center of the Universe and you do not put yourself first. Don’t be selfish.’
And like everybody else, I too was constantly told what I could and could not do and nowhere was there any talk about ME looking after ME and finding out what I wanted.
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Hi Graham.
Thank you for referring to my post on people pleasing, NOT looking after oneself and confusing that with being selfish.
It is a killer that ‘people pleasing’ behaviour, that we women in particluar have been so conditioned into. With many of us taking on roles in business as well as at home, too many things to please has us in an emotional muddle we cannot see our way out of.
The tragic of that is that we then can become so confused in our total exhaustion and that self destructive behaviour is the only option left. And who wants that!
So once again Graham, thank you for bringing this to BNI’s attention, love Wilma.
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